“Awards” Ceremony

This time of the year many are posting their kids on awards day.  It’s quite sweet, but my kids needed some explanation of what an Awards Day was; we’re home schooling, so they don’t experience some of the traditional things that go along with school. 

However, I had an impromptu “awards ceremony,” and I told their dad how great each of them are! I called them up individually to the middle of the living room. 

I announced each child as, “my star ___ grade student.” They all received perfect attendance and were Honor Roll students (forget the fact that we don’t grade anything).  Ruby excelled in reading. Molly excelled in sewing.  Mack excelled in imagination/costume design/inventing things out of tape and boxes. 

And it’s only appropriate that the “ceremony” was with kids in their pajamas!  I suppose it also doesn’t matter that we aren’t really finished with school either. Lol!  

   
 

Oh, happy home school days!😄

Mid-May Madness

True to every other May, the calendar has been full. Travels, celebrations, more travel, trying to wrap up school work, and on and on. 

This summer I’m leading a Bible Study called BREATHE by Priscilla Shirer. I cannot wait to dive in with other ladies from church. We will take a look at margins in our lives. I can already tell that the Lord has been preparing me for this time. Margins. Rest. Priorities. Saying No so I can say Yes to what is important. Owning my time, under the Lord’s leadership alone. 

It’s going to be goooood. 

So before summer officially begins, let me share some pictures from around here(And around the world)!

   
   

   
   

   
     

   
 

I wish I could show you my favorite picture…but I’m not sure about the rules…..I met some amazing people with amazing stories. Most of the people I met have been in jail for their faith. Many are now refugees; they all are active in the church and their faith is inspiring. 

   
   

   
           

These pictures are from Hagai Sophia, a museum in Istanbul. It used to be a church in the Byzantine period and then became a mosque when Muslims came in and conquered this land.  In addition to taking down crosses, they plastered over mosaics of Jesus. The plaster is coming down and revealing the christian mosaics. The building is now a museum. Inside, you can spot the crosses that have been changed or altered. The cross is offensive and represents the central truth of Christianity…that Jesus died on the cross for the sins of the world and was buried and rose again.  It sets Christianity apart from every other religion of the world. While so many are working their way to God through good works or weighing their good against their bad to secure their eternity, God came down to us as Jesus. Fully God, fully human. He met us where we live!  He did the work. We simply must believe and place our trust in Him alone. 

   
 

Above you can see where they took off the top part of these crosses.

Below is a picture of a large door at the entrance of the museum. You can see where the horizontal part of the cross was taken down. 

  
I Corinthians 1:18 “For the word of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are saved it is the power of God.”

   

We came home exhausted and jet lagged, but thrilled to be back with the kids. Molly had a fall while we were gone and ended up breaking her arm. 

 
She didn’t get a cast though…the break is up high on her right arm and this brace does the trick. After tears of disappointment, Molly was atleast happy that she had never seen anyone with a brace quite like this one. Molly has waited for a broken arm for a while. She was hoping she could have a cast; I was so happy that she could take this brace off for showers and stuff!  It’s going to be a long six weeks, but nothing like if she was in a cast!!

 
Ice cream always helps. 

And then today we tried out the small pool in our neighborhood. 

  Thankful for summer! Thankful for my kids! Thankful for the brace instead of a cast! Thankful that we are in our last days of school work!  Thankful that Josh comes home today from his last bit of travel for the summer…I think. 😊

So that sums up our May so far. Ruby has a birthday coming up, so that is next on our calendar. Fun times! 

Comma Splice Fun

Today I had the privilege of teaching my girls about compound sentences and comma splices. It was awesome. At first they were less than enthused about it, but they got into it!  Syntax was something I heard in college in English 101, and I’m sure in high school I learned bits of this….I particularly remember Mrs. Hamilton, my Senior English teacher, harping on “comma splices everywhere! Comma splice, comma splice, comma splice,” she would say in her very southern twang. But Dr.Hines at Middle Georgia College took one morning to lay out the very basics of the English language, and I was in love. I don’t know what made it so different than high school, but it all just clicked on that beautiful fall morning in Cochran, Georgia. I love writing and words and all things grammar. I write blogs all the time in my head that never make it to print because I don’t always have the time to follow through properly. 

There are so many stories swirling around in my head. For example, just the other night we were discussing spiritual gifts as a family. The kids were giving their two cents on what they thought their gifts were.  Josh and I gave some insight, and then Mack interrupted us to say, quite confidently, “Mom, I know your gift. It’s work!”  Ok then. When he saw the look on my face, he quickly changed his tune and said, “Oh and it’s LOVE!  Your gift is love.”  Crazy kid. 

And speaking of a crazy kid and stories I want to write, last night we went to a High school Graduation Dinner. I started talking to the girls about how one day they will have one of those, and I even asked them if they could imagine Mack having a graduation dinner.  They were giggling and saying how cute and funny he is.  Then, Molly piped up,and said, “Yeah, I’ll be at his dinner with my husband and my baby on my hip.”

Ummmm, Molly. You’re only 19 months older than Mack. 

She’s on the fast track to marriage and babies. Dear goodness. 

Ruby is very much a first-born child. Today they were playing in water in the backyard, and Ruby could not just play. She had to have rules. And only her rules counted. And she changed the rules often. It must be exhausting being a first born child. She decompresses by HOURS of reading a day. She loves to go upstairs and get on her top bunk and read out loud. I love hearing her; she uses such great inflection. She also has great voices for different characters. The other two beg her to read “just one more chapter” every night. 

Three little stories all because I wanted to share about how fun it was to teach English today!  

Remember, if you have two independent sentences that you want to bring together, then they must be joined with a comma and a conjunction OR with a semicolon.  If you only use a comma, then you are committing a crime—it’s called a comma splice. 😬 Happy Writing!!

Book Recommendation!

  

A Must Read Book!  

Evidence Not Seen by Darlene Deibler Rose tells an incredible story of her life beginning as a newlywed missionary in Macassar and into her time in a Japanese prison camp during World War II. The suffering she and so many others endured is appalling. I could not even imagine what those brutal years were like. 

The beatings. The hard labor. The lack of warm showers (or any shower at all!), only two outfits, no shoes. Uncomfortable beds. The diseases that set in. The death of her husband. The unknown.  The small rations of food. Fear of being beaten. Medical conditions going uncared for. 

A prisoner of war. 

The Japanese leaders were ruthless and uncaring….HOWEVER, they had some exceptions. Darlene was one of them. She was highly favored by the main guy, Mr. Yamaji. She even had opportunity to share Jesus with him. He was visibly moved by the good news of the gospel–that Jesus died for him and that Darlene loved even him, an enemy. 

Darlene was eventually moved to another prison where she was isolated from everyone. Her living conditions were even more deplorable than the first prison camp. They tried to convict her of espionage, and she even stood to be executed for it, but God intervened. He used, of all people, Mr. Yamaji, to show Himself strong in her life. How God cared for her is overwhelming. 

He intervened all throughout the way in awe-inspiring ways. I cried several times with amazement at how good and personal our God is. 

The scripture was her life. She quotes so many verses that came to her in these dark days. She would remember them at the exact right time. I was so challenged to keep memorizing and meditating on Scripture. It has power!!!  And reading Darlene’s story makes me ashamed that I, in these pristine of conditions, can sometimes find it hard to draw from God’s Word for all I need. However, I have caught myself not giving voice to complaints, as I recall in my mind what life was like for her as a prisoner of war. 

Suddenly, not having anything to wear is not only a lie, but ridiculous. Wishing and wanting for this or that is plain nuts. 

Proper Perspective can come to you after reading a book like this. We’ve read several books as a family that make us realize we don’t know much at all about suffering (And The Word Came with Power and Gladys Alyward…both fabulous reads!).  This one has marked me. I won’t soon forget the suffering of Darlene Deibler and her shining example as a follower of Christ. 

One night after being interrogated at prison, she recalled a poem by Annie Johnson she had just two weeks before memorized:

He giveth more grace when the burdens grow greater. 

He sendeth more strength when the labors increase. 

To added affliction, He addeth His mercy,

To multiplied trial, His multiplied peace. 


When we have exhausted our store of endurance,

And our strength has failed ere the day is half done,

When we reach the end of our hoarded resources, 

The Father’s full giving is only begun. 


His love has no limit, His grace has no measure. 

His power has no boundary known unto men. 

For out of His infinite riches in Jesus,

He giveth and giveth and giveth again

I Peter 1: 3-7, 13

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to His great mercy has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to obtain an inheritance which is imperishable and undefiled  and will not fade away, reserved in heaven for you, who are protected by the power of God through faith for a salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you greatly rejoice, even though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been distressed by various trials, so that the proof of your faith, being more precious than gold which is perishable, may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ…Therefore prepare your minds for action, keep sober in spirit, fix your hope completely on the grace to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ.”

Darlene most definitely lived for the next life. What a beautiful example she is to me. Please read this book. It’s like a layer has been shed from my eyes to more clearly see the unseen (2 Corinthians 4….”but the things which are unseen are eternal.”)

And this song goes right along with Darlene’s life. She knew that everything was hers in Christ. 
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zokDEfvD5gY

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Fun weekend!

We went to Augusta on Friday to spend time celebrating my mom. I won’t be in town for Mother’s Day or her birthday next week, so we planned an early trip over for those special days. 

   
   

   

We drove over to Athens, GA for Josh to lead the chapel service for the UGA baseball team. It was actually the first time we have taken our kids to a game, and they liked it a lot. Last week I told Mack what we were doing…”We’re going to Athens and watch the team play that Daddy used to play on, UGA.”  Mack looked at me confused. “Really??  Daddy played baseball there. Where is it?  What’s the name?”  It made me laugh. I know we’ve talked about it before, but evidently he didn’t get it. 

The whole day brought back lots of memories. It feels like a whole lifetime ago that he and I were dating, and I was at the field watching him play. I was so proud of him being able to go back and share with those guys about the most important part of life—Jesus. 

   
  
   

  

 

   

  

  

 

   

  

  

  

  

  

 

Friends of oursmet us there!  We had fun!

   

 

And Mack woke up this morning and put this outfit together. 

 I think he will want to go to another game! What a fun weekend with family! 

You’re Not God! And Neither am I!!!!!

Need A Reminder That You’re Not God?

Have you ever wondered if God really has your best interest at heart?  Have you ever thought that God gave you an insignificant gift or talent? Have you ever contemplated your past and wondered why He allowed this or that to happen to you?  Have you ever really wanted something and yet knew God was saying to wait…and it ticked you off? Why is He just keeping you away from something you want so badly?

How about looking at others’ lives….Have you ever thought you knew what someone else should or shouldn’t be doing?  Have you ever had a wonderful plan for someone’s life if they would just listen to you?!?!

Have you ever wondered how in the world God could love you?  I mean, how could He use you after all the bad things you’ve done and said and thought? It’s an overwhelming truth that He does love me, just as I am. 

If we’re truthful, all of us would admit that some of these questions have passed through our minds and across our lips. 

Why, Lord?

Why not, Lord?

Why this way, Lord?

Why not this way, Lord?

Why at this time, Lord?

Why not at this time, Lord?

Of course, God can handle any and every question I have for him. I would just like to grow in my trust in Him and experience walking by faith instead of by sight or feeling.

My devotion just last week pointed me to the book of Job and led me in a little exercise. In the moments I find myself wanting to be God or doubting His sovereignty, I can ask myself some of the same questions God asked Job.

Here is my favorite to ask myself in order to remind me that God is God ALONE. 

Have you ever in your life commanded the morning and caused the dawn to know its place?” Job 38:12

This one is good as well:  “Can you lift up your voice to the clouds, so that an abundance of water will cover you?” Job 38:34

Or, “Do you know the ordinances of the heavens, or fix their rule over the earth?”

Again, God can handle our doubts and frustrations. 

But sometimes I can’t handle my nagging doubts and wandering thoughts, and they seem to overwhelm me and frustrate me…and a good dose of “Hello!!!  You’re not God,” is in order. 

And then I am reminded of how powerful and right and perfect my God is. Utterly trustworthy and faithful through and through. 

Then Job answered the Lord and said, “I know that You can do all things, and that no purpose of Yours can be thwarted.”

Do I know and believe that God can do all things?  Am I overwhelmingly convinced that no purpose of His can be thwarted? What freedom comes when I trust Him fully with every detail of my life. 

I’ll be using those questions God asked Job to remind me that I most definitely don’t know better than God about anything! He is God alone. 

Books and Nails And Legos

Tonight the kids and I went to eat Mexican and spend Mack’s birthday gift card at Target. I’m well aware of how different they are and tonight it was very clear as soon as we walked in the door.  

 

Ruby was set on not letting us skip our read aloud this evening. She claimed this book as the one SHE was going to read aloud–not me!  And it was only fair considering she has read Caddie Woodlawn three times on her own. She is hilarious as she gets to certain sections she enjoys more than others…and she asks us questions about what we think is about to happen!  I love to hear her read. 

  

And Molly. She was painting her nails before I set my purse down!  This girl is too funny to me. 

  

And Mack, though he tried to spend his money on something other than Legos, he just couldn’t do it. 

  

Sure am thankful for these kids and all the time I get with them. I’m thankful for Josh who works to provide so that my concentration can be at home on my family. Thankful for this season. ❤️

Homeschool Conference Recap

Growing up and into adulthood and then marriage and even with having my first baby, I never thought I would find myself at a homeschool conference. I didn’t have awful thoughts about homeschooling. I just truly never even thought about it for one second of my life. And looking back over the past 11 years, I cannot tell you the first time I did think about or consider myself home schooling my kids. I do know The Lord used people (and lots of them) around me to get me thinking about the idea of home school. I met home school moms that were awesomely “normal” (whatever in the world that means).  I began to realize that there are actually all kinds of people everywhere you go and in whatever you find yourself in to. A very honest friend of mine, when asked about socialization and weird home schoolers, said, “You’re kids will be as weird as you are.”  She has a point!  

Anyway, all of that to say, we jumped into home schooling in 2009, and we have never looked back. 

Now I didn’t say I’ve never daydreamed about having 7 hours, five days a week without my kids…but I truly cannot imagine not homeschooling the kids. I’m learning so very much! And I am getting to know my kids in some fun and challenging ways. 

So I found myself at a home school conference this past week. I could have attended for three days straight, but I attended four great sessions, strolled through the Exhibitor’s Hall and came home to fall into bed at 10pm.  It was enough for me. The rest of the weekend I gathered my brain back together with silence.  Heavenly silence. 

But while I was at the conference I did learn some things. 

Session One-MaryJo Tate     “Overcoming Interruptions and Distractions

She reminded us that saying YES to one thing automatically says NO to many other things. 

Distractions and Interruptions come in all shapes and sizes. She divided them into three categories. 

1) ACTIVITIES- what do you need to KEEP doing? ELIMINATE? ADD? She talked about delegating some chores…maybe kids can start doing all the laundry or maybe you need to outsource a subject or music instrument to another teacher?  Or what about hiring a maid? (Now that would be nice!)

She encouraged you to study your kids and see what they are passionate about before just signing them up for this, that, and the other. 

Lastly, in activities, she told us to remember that opportunity does NOT equal obligation. You don’t have to do every great thing that comes across your path!

2) STUFF- Get rid of clutter and simplify your life. I think I’m making great strides in this area. 

3) PEOPLE- sounds funny that people, including your children, can be interruptions or distractions. As a general rule, people are worth stopping what you’re doing and helping.  She was just trying to convey that as your kids become more independent in their work, you may want to do some other things ( for her, she edits books as a job), and your kids need to learn some boundaries. For me, if I’ve spent time with my kids with Bible and History and then get them started on a few things they can do on their own, without me sitting over them, then I can go walk on the treadmill and should be able to expect no interruptions. Maybe school is over and I want a nap…that’s ok. Tell the kids what you expect from them and take an  uninterrupted nap. I’m with my kids a lot, so, I want to help them realize I am my own person and I don’t  exist simply to answer their every school work question or help them in all their endeavors all day long. 

Other helpful tidbits from this session:

Use 30 minute screen time for the kids when it would most benefit me in the day. 

When my kids come to me for help about something, first ask them, “What would you do if I were not here to help?”  This just helps them start thinking more independently. 

And my favorite reminder: INSPECT WHAT YOU EXPECT. Ugh!!  Isn’t the fact that I’ve told them what to do and have shown them how to do it enough????? Evidently not. So for a while I will be going back to a bit of hand-holding. I will have to go into the bathroom to see if the toilet is clean, to make sure the mirror is clean of toothpaste spots, to make sure the beds are made nicely, etc. More work for me now, but I am hoping they are actually learning how to clean a bathroom really well. Whether you agree with me or not, it’s a valuable lesson. 

Session Two-Karen DeBeus   

Karen was a great speaker. She wrote a book, CALLED HOME, that I read last year. It is a story about how she reluctantly began home schooling. Her blogs are  simplylivingforhim.com and BibleBasedHomeschoolibg.com. 

I enjoyed hearing how she used the Bible as their only textbook one year, besides still using their math curriculum.  However, at this time, I don’t  feel led to do that!

A few quotes I liked:

“Don’t spend more time reading ABOUT the Bible than IN the Bible.”

“So what if they can read….if they don’t read The Word?!”

“Being a homeschooled should not define us. Being saved by Christ should. Let us be known by representing Him.”

My main take-away here was to start each day with the kids in The Word. I used to be diligent about this. I have my own time with God in His Word, so sometimes I just have them do their chores, have breakfast and then get started on math while I do some other things I want to do and then we move on to other subjects and before you know it, we haven’t read God’s Word together. It’s the most important thing we can study together, so why would I skip it??  So, we’re putting priorities back in order as it relates to our home school routine. And I’m looking forward to it!

Session 3—SIBLING RIVALRY

Session 4— INDEPENDENT LEARNERS 

Both of those sessions were fabulous, but a bit too much to convey through notes. They gave good tips for helping kids realize that the real enemy is satan, and in realizing their common enemy, they will better understand that they should work together against him and his ways instead of against each other. 

And as it relates to independent learners, I think the girls are making great strides. Mack, on the other hand, has a ways to go!  He loves to be sitting right beside me while he works…you know, just in case he needs me to explain something in every math problem to him.  We will continue to work on this with all of the kids. I do not want them to get to middle school and be clueless about completing their work on their own….of course I will still teach them, but for the most part, it’s pretty neat to see how they learn a great deal by reading the lesson on their own. 

While I’m still prayerful about classes we will sign up for and curriculum we will buy, I think I have a plan!  And for that, I am thankful.

  

Here are a few pictures from down in south GA of what my kids were doing without me. 

   

     

He Speaks to Me {because I’m sometimes confused on how to be great}

What a reminder I received this morning with The Lord. I have been alone for a couple of days, which is a rare and precious thing to me. What’s a girl to do with time alone? I mean, besides have chips and salsa for dinner and a waffle for dessert? She sleeps! She reads! She de-clutters! She may or may not stay in pajamas all day, take a shower in the evening, only to put on new pajamas for bed.

I also went for a walk this morning. Yesterday it rained and rained and rained some more. These spring-time rains are gifts from God; they wash away the pollen. If we aren’t careful here in Georgia, we will miss the grand beauty of spring because we have to endure so much pollen. We even feel the pollen making our heads so very heavy!
Ah-choo! (We are so easily swayed to complain, aren’t we?)

But the rain that was falling yesterday was a beautiful sight, and as I looked out the window I could just tell that everything was so much more green and lush. And so my walk this morning was fabulous. My eyes could hardly take in the beauty of God’s creation. The birds were chirping their little heads off. The trees were seemingly stretching up to heaven, branches raised in praise to God with their little blooms. And everything was alive with color!

Couple this amazing creation with a clear Word from My Creator, and I was overflowing with praise and thanksgiving. He spoke to me about something that I’ve thought about for a while and have had several conversations with some friends about:  this tension of really being used by God…making sure your life matters (as if this is somehow all up to me). And just like God, He showered down His Word in my heart and cleared up my thinking. And it was beautiful.  I could almost feel the growth happening as I spent time with Him this morning.

Here’s the scripture that spoke to me:

MARK10:43-45 “…but whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant; and whoever wishes to be first among you shall be slaves of all. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.”

I want to be great! I want someone to notice me and all my hard work, maybe even see a diamond in the rough in a certain area. I have dreams in my heart that seem to be going nowhere. So how can I be great? Are you great if you write a book? Are you great if your kids are genius kids that get a scholarship to school and go on to become famous? Are you great if you make Christian movies?  Are you great if you make a lot of money and are able to give a lot of money away? Are you great if you have a world-renown blog? Are you great if you make all your own meals from scratch and run marathons for fun?  It sounds quite shallow when I type it out: Am I great? But even the disciples asked some pretty presumptuous questions that I sure can relate to!  I believe that maybe they felt like I do…I want to do something great for God because I want to please Him.  I want my life to please Him.  I want to know that what I am doing matters.  Matthew 18:1 says the disciples asked Jesus who was the greatest in the Kingdom.

Luke 22:24 puts it this way, “And there arose also a dispute among them as to which one of them was regarded to be greatest.”

Jesus speaks into the dispute, bringing clarity, but probably not what they were hoping to hear. When He first started speaking, I wonder if each disciple secretly hoped Jesus was about to set the record straight and tell the others that he was indeed the one who is the greatest. Instead, Jesus says, “..but the one who is the greatest among you must become like the youngest, and the leader like the servant. For who is greater, the one who reclines at the table or the one who serves? Is it not the one who reclines at the table? But I am among you as the one who serves.”

Bottom line? The way the world views greatness is the opposite of how Jesus views greatness.

“How to be Great” isn’t a big secret or formula for me as a Believer. Jesus was quite clear.

If I want to be great, I serve.  And when I serve others, I please God because I look a lot like His Son.

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My Two Cents {a few marriage tips}

Ladies Night Out with my Sunday School girls happens the first Tuesday of each month.  The location changes, and we do different types of things together.   This past Tuesday we all gathered at my house to just talk…but with purpose.  I had a few ideas of topics and other gals brought up things on their minds.  It was a good night.  We even got to hear someone’s testimony, which brought us all a little bit closer to her and opened our hearts a little more to hers.  

Near the close of the evening, I asked each girl how long they have been married.  There were a couple of 16 years and 17 years, lots of 13, 14, and 15 years a 7 years and 4 years with a few others.  By no means was I sharing out of sooooooo many years experience, but for this room of gals, it was ok to simply share some things I have gleaned in my short 14 years and 2 months of marriage. And I enjoyed hearing their input as we talked through the list. 

So if you’re a newlywed wife and would like some advice on marriage, I hope you’ll read my list. It isn’t exhaustive, but I’ve hit some of the highlights.

1- Remember, you and your husband are on the same team!

Josh has used the “same team” analogy on me multiple times.  I suppose that’s what I should expect marrying a guy who played team sports his whole life.  I used to pout or get real quiet when I was bothered by something….I’d do anything except talk to him about it.  Well, he would have none of that.  He would have me sit on the couch, looking at him, and he would tell me we were going to talk. “We’re on the same team!” And he was right.  It’s so easy to let life’s circumstances drive a wedge between you and your husband instead of bringing you together.

2- Remember, you’re not always easy to live with either—forgive often, seek forgiveness and live humbly.

3- Never do anything alone that you couldn’t do with your husband’s ready approval.  It may put a damper on your Target trips, but it will keep you accountable!

4- Love believes the best about someone.  I remember a season when I thought Josh must be out to get me…he always had shoes in the living room, he would hang clothes on anything but a hanger in the closet, or he would leave his dish in the sink after I had cleaned the kitchen.  BUT, one day the Lord convicted me about my thoughts and sometimes my words about Josh.  I was NOT believing the best about him.  I was telling myself that he didn’t care about the work I did at home, etc, etc.  In reality, those thoughts weren’t true or loving.  

5- And connected with number 4, I also realized that I had started grouping my husband in with my kids.  “Y’all always leave your shoes everywhere.” “Does anyone know how to put their clothes away??!!”  See, it is indeed a lot of work to keep a house in good running order!  No one is debating that.  (But remember that it is also hard work for him to earn a living for his family!) Take caution not to let the line get blurry between our husband and our kids.  I’m training my kids to become independent and have less need of me. And as the kids get older, I can let them know that they can put away their own clothes.  They can put away their own shoes and clean that dish they just tossed in the clean, empty sink!  And I can serve my husband with joy.  I’m not his mother; I am his wife! 

6- Marriage is intended to be a picture of Christ and the church. What are you showing your kids, your family, your friends or neighbors about Christ by how you treat your spouse?  I want my kids to supernaturally see the gospel when they watch Josh and me. I don’t completely understand how that happens exactly, but I believe it does. They should see unconditional love, faithfulness, commitment through all types of circumstances, joy, encouragement, purity, patience, graciousness.

7- This may be just me, BUT a red flag goes up when I start a sentence to Josh with, “I feel…”  Now I’m not saying I never tell Josh how I feel, but many times that sentence goes on to be a bit dramatic, so for me it’s a red flag.  Is what I’m about to say true and sound or am I being overly sensitive? 

8- Think of your three closest friends. Is your husband one of them?  How can you be a better friend to your husband? There’s no one on the planet I love to spend time with more than Josh!

9- Intimacy is a good thing—a gift from God to be enjoyed all your married days!  I mean, not every single day, but lots and lots of days throughout your married life!

So there you have it.  My little list.  Marriage is hard work, but also the most fun thing I’ve ever been a part of!  I’m extremely thankful for the gift of marriage!